On a side note, allow me to explain that for whatever reason, the TB blog this week won't let me do my nice big sized fonts, my different colored fonts, nothing. This explains the rather basic look of my posts the last few days. Can I figure out what happened? Nope. But I will.
Enjoy your weekend and come back Monday!
"To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing."
"One should never criticize his own work except in a fresh and hopeful mood. The self-criticism of a tired mind is suicide."
---Charles Horton Cooley
When you first began writing, I'm going to guess that at some point, someone, or some book, or some conference, encouraged you to find a critique group. Right?
And let's say you found one. And you've had a few visits. And your head is reeling.
If your "starting out" experience with critique groups is like mine, you will find tons of advice not just from the members of the group, but from people telling you HOW to utilize your group.
And once again we find conflicting advice, and we find ourselves struggling. It's not supposed to be a 'struggle,' we tell ourselves. According to the writing world at large, it's supposed to be as easy as:
RULES FOR A GROUP
1. Invite members of all genres, to gain as many varied perspectives as possible.
2. Invite members that only write the same kind of stuff you do, because they will be more in tune with the sensibilities behind your work, and give better advice.
3. Listen to everyone with an open mind and do not be afraid to act on a piece of advice, even if it seems radical. This is how you find solutions you would never find alone. This is the point of the group.
4. Listen to everyone with an open mind but for heaven's sake, hang on to your vision and maintain your focus. Take the advice that makes sense and reject all else (with a smile.) Don't let someone lead you astray.
5. When you are critiquing someone else, be honest. They are here because they WANT to improve and they are not afraid of criticism. (If they are, they do not belong in the group.) Be honest, be kind, but be direct. Don't be afraid to say it all, including that perfect scene you have dreamed up that will solve his/her dry third act. If necessary, jot down a rough outline for them.
6. When critiquing someone else, edit yourself. Do not, repeat, DO NOT, TELL someone else HOW they should rewrite their story. You can offer an opinion like, "The climax is a bit understated, can you oomph it?" But you must never tell them the WAY to oomph the climax is to have Bruce discover Jennifer with the chauffeur, reach for a gun, then in the ensuing frenzy, shots break out and there is an unexpected murder. That is far too specific and dishonors the writer. Just give them a general nudge.
7. Use the time to also socialize and eat!
8. Don't eat. Don't socialize. Stay focused and keep it about writing.
There. Now you have all the rules of being part of a critique group.
Hold on. Some of those items kind of.....clash....don't they? Do you see a few contradictions???
Well, I have heard all of the above, and I have had to sort out for myself how to participate in a critique group, and how to get the most from my peers. And I'm guessing you are too.
1. For me, I want to mix writing and socializing. And cookies. Lots of cookies.
2. I want to help someone make their book the best it can be, but I do NOT want to tell them exactly how to write it. I keep my extremely detailed scenarios to myself. UNLESS they are asked for.
3. I want everyone to be brutally honest with my work. (But at first, I couldn't handle it.) I do not mind if someone tells me how exactly I should structure the first act or rewrite that critical scene. I am able to take what I want and ignore the rest (with a smile.) (But at first, I was not able to.)
4. I prefer a group of children's writers. I have nothing against adult fiction, non-fiction, mysteries, sci-fi, whatever. But I want peers who have read all the same books I have, who are in tune with the same readers I am, and who are struggling with many of the same specific genre-related issues I am. And besides, how can I, with a straight face, offer criticism to someone creating a sci-fi book? Or adult non-fiction? I don't read those kind of books. And it seems to me a critique group should be about surrounding yourself with people who are knowledgeable in YOUR field. It would be a discredit to them and to me.
So I guess what I'm saying, once again, is.....it's about balance. And finding what works for you. And staying true to it. With no apologies.
And I'd love to hear what works for YOU in critique groups, and what doesn't. Please feel free to send in your comments!